How To Have Phone Sex: A Guide For Regular Folks (Part 1)

Man Calling for Free Phone SexHow do you have phone sex if you’re just a regular person? You don’t have to be a sex worker or an improv actor to get off on the phone (though it helps)! In this three-part, special series from your friends at TalkToMeMen.com:

  • Learn trade secrets for erotic conversation, from real pros at the top of their game.
  • Keep long distance relationships alive with regular, mind-blowing phone sex!
  • Or use these simple techniques to engage your partner’s erotic imagination, for maximum mutual satisfaction.

You don’t necessarily have to think like a pervert, you just need think outside the box. A wild imagination is really all you need, along with the ability to let go of your inhibitions. Phone sex is the ultimate in creative expression and sexual adventure two people can have. Phone sex can get so intense; it’s unlike anything else you can experience.

Good phone sex creates a spark, builds tension, and then plays with this tension…ever increasing it juuuust a little bit until the inevitable, mind-blowing orgasm. Get your partner HOT. Get your partner HORNY. Your goal isn’t to make your partner climax, though; at least, not at first. You’ll want to lead your partner through stages of arousal.

You’re an orchestra conductor, but instead of waving a baton, you’re weaving a tale about two people alone and naked….

The Set-Up

Let’s all agree that sex is highly personal, therefore there is no one right way to have phone sex. Certain words that really turn one person on might actively disgust someone else, or trigger bad memories or make them burst out laughing. You never know! So tread lightly with new partners.

  1. Pay attention to how they express themselves. Do they use coarse words or prefer euphemisms?  Do they give pause when you use salty language, yourself?
  2. You’re looking for common ground. It doesn’t really matter what words you wind up with because phone sex doesn’t have to be “crude” to be hot. Phone sex doesn’t have to be dirty to satisfy.

So how will you have phone sex? No matter how a conversation progresses, be sure to keep your mind open as you begin.

Setting the Scene

Make the first move by describing a sexy scenario you both can build on. If you’re not sure about your partner’s interest yet, keep the sexual overtones light. Encourage participation by creating a scene with your partner’s pleasure as the main focus.

You can get as creative as you want when setting the scene, but keep in mind that even the most mundane “opener” can lead to a wild phone encounter. In fact, the old classic “What are you wearing?” still works these days. Sure, it’s a little cliché, but what a wonderful way to warm up the imagination, by guiding your partner to imagine your body, step by tantalizing step.

Some other examples of phone sex scenes or scenarios:

I walk into the room and you’re spread on the bed…
I’m touching myself on a sunny porch while you…
I drive by and you’re…
You walk in while I’m…
If we were living in caveman times…
If I was a virgin…
When we were at camp…
I had a dream where you…
I saw a picture of you…
Someone told me that you…

 *Remember, you’re just trying to start a spark, here. If your partner is game, they’ll add to the conversation (even if it’s just an encouraging “Mmmhmmmm….?” that shows they are curious to hear the rest of your story).

If your partner fails to show interest, all is not necessarily lost. Your partner may need more time, or your scenario might need some tweaking before it resonates. When in doubt: ask what your partner likes; it’s really that simple.

Read on for How To Have Phone Sex: A Guide For Regular Folks (Part 2)!